Monday, July 9, 2012



“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (KJV)

As the Lord blessed me to celebrate my recent birthday, I began to ask myself some thought-provoking questions. You see, I have taken the past several weeks, if not months, to evaluate myself in light of Scriptures, to reflect on the goodness of God, to meditate on His precepts, and also to ponder. Over the past several years, I have seen single women make some poor choices in choosing a mate all because they did not wait on the Lord to give them His best in a mate. And of course by the time a woman reaches a certain age, there are undoubtedly many questions as to why marriage hasn’t come yet. It almost reminds me of that old saying: Are we there yet? Well…not yet my friends. But this is not a lesson on cultural society’s expectations for marriage. This perhaps may be a lesson on the sovereignty of our faithful Lord. So if you are single, as I am, you may be tempted to ask some similar questions as to why you remain single. To be honest, I stopped asking that question years ago. Why? Because God has shown me through His Word the importance of waiting on Him. Besides in this life we will have to wait, whether we like it or not. So why not wait on God’s choice for a mate? To be honest, part of my desire to wait has been based on seeing so many people, even those whom I dearly love, make choices based on their emotions rather than choosing a spouse based on God’s Word.


Psalm 27:14 – “Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.” (KJV)

Psalm 84:11 – “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.” (ESV)


No good thing:  Marriage is a beautiful blessing from the Lord: a God-given covenant between a man to a woman only; meant to last until death separates. This explains why no one should enter into a marriage lightly. If you believe like I do, then you believe that God will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly. We are His children. We seek to please Him in every way. Even when we sin and fall short of the glory of God, we repent and continue to follow Christ on this journey. We do not short-change God in anything, including our singleness. 


Here is the Simple Truth:  Sometimes we as single women can tend to focus too much on why we are not married. When we should ask ourselves, what can we do to prepare for marriage, if marriage is the Lord’s will for us? How can we as single women best serve the Lord during this time of singleness? Should the Lord tarry, here are some things we as single women need to remember:

1.       It is God’s will to give to those a husband as He desires. Genesis 2:18 states “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (KJV). God is holy and He is sovereign. Job 42:2 states “I know that You can do all things, and that no purpose of Yours can be thwarted.” (ESV).  Our Heavenly Father knows when the time is right to introduce you to your future mate. So let us be still. You never know who you may meet while in the frozen foods section of Wal-Mart. God is the BEST Matchmaker. EVER!!!
2.       Be NOT idle! Do not waste this time wishing you were married. Spend this time doing the Lord’s work wherever you find your hands to do. 1 Corinthians 10:31 states “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (ESV).
3.       Do not despise your married friends. It only lends to covetousness of which the Lord has already given us His Word on that subject. (Reference Exodus 20:17).
4.       Prepare yourself. Now I’m sure you all have heard this one before. Read the Bible. If you desire marriage, pull out those Scriptures that pertain to the role of a wife towards her husband. This is even beneficial for those single ladies who do not have the desire for marriage. Also find a good Biblically based book on the subject of preparation for marriage. This will come in handy as you prepare. Seek the advice of other Godly women who are married. Ask them some questions as to how their spouses went through the courtship process with them. Gather as much information as possible.
5.       Seek out accountability beforehand. I am aware that there are some Christians who are with the mindset that accountability is not biblical or that perhaps they do not want others in their business. Well…that’s not my view. I invite certain Godly people into my business. Why? Because of the issue of sexual purity, and my desire to maintain my sexual purity when I am in this courtship process. I need accountability and you do to. We do not need to think of ourselves so highly and super-spiritually minded as to think that we are not prone to sexual immorality. If this wasn’t so, then the Apostle Paul would not have written 1 Corinthians chapter 7 to address such issues. (Reference 1 Corinthians 7). Proverbs 27:17 – “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (ESV).
6.       Pray for your future husband. This one requires no further explanation. The following website is from Revive Our Hearts Ministry of Nancy Leigh DeMoss which includes 31 prayers wives can pray for their husbands. I am convinced that as single women, we can at least pull a couple of these prayers to pray over our future husbands.
7.       Rest in His hope. We do not know everything. We have not all the answers. But one thing I can say with surety is that our God is faithful. He hears our prayers and His timing is certainly perfect. Let us rest in the hope that our faithful Father in Heaven will perform His will in our lives, whether that is to remain single or whether that is to marry one of His children. Psalm 138:8 – “The Lord will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O Lord, endureth for ever: forsake not the works of thine own hands.” (KJV).


Our Lord, our Savior:  Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for those reading this blog that You will fill them to overflowing with Your Word in their lives. May they be able to understand what is the hope of Your calling, what Your will is for them in every situation, struggle, and trial. May we not grow weary in well doing for in due season, Your Word states that we will reap, if we do not faint. We pray now that You will make us into excellent women and wives for Your glory alone, in Jesus Almighty Name. Amen.


Books I recommend:
The Bible (English Standard Version or King James Version or both) SMILE!
Choosing God’s Best: Wisdom for lifelong romance by Dr. Don Raunikar
The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
Becoming the Titus 2 Woman by Martha Peace
Feminine Appeal: Seven virtues of a godly wife and mother by Carolyn Mahaney
Videos I highly recommend watching:
Biblical Manhood by Dr. Voddie Baucham (Full sermon link listed below and available on youtube)
Biblical Womanhood by Dr. Voddie Baucham (Full sermon link listed below and available on youtube)

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